Low libido or decreased sex drive is a common concern among both males and females. While 15% men suffer from the sexual problem, 1/3rd of women are on the same lines. The result usually is lack of regular sex between couples. So, what can be done to put back the “passion” in life again? You need to bring these important changes in your daily lifestyle.
1. Have more of aphrodisiacs
Foods that enhance sexual desire in humans are called as aphrodisiacs. A research shows that these foods do the job of improving sexual function as well with the help of certain components and vitamins they contain. Here is the list of popular aphrodisiacs:
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Strawberry:
Apart from its sexually arousing color (red), especially for women, strawberry is studied to be a good source of B vitamins and folic acid, which is very helpful to fight off birth defects
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Avocados:
Men with heart problems often fall prey to erectile dysfunction (ED). Low in saturated fats, avocados help to keep your arteries and heart healthy so that the blood flows appropriately throughout your body, especially below your waist
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Oyster:
Seafood such as oyster and oily fishes like herring, salmon, etc. make great aphrodisiacs as they not only promote a healthy heart, but also source zinc which is a great libido booster
2. Have no stress at all!
Stress is a big killer of libido. You should take some steps to de-stress yourself before you swirl into the blanket with your partner. Read a good novel or take a warm bath to control your “fight or flight” hormone i.e. cortisol.
3. Have ‘sex’ listed in your to-do list
Doctor’s appointment, visit spa, car servicing, go golfing, drop and pick-up kids, etc., and it goes on and on! Wait, where’s ‘have sex’? A busy life is another big killer of libido. Don’t feel shy to fix a sex appointment with your partner. Putting it on the list will give you less room for excuses and you’ll become committed to having an active sex life.
4. Have more fruits & veggies and less whole milk & animal fat products
A popular study published in a leading health magazine revealed an eye-opening connection between low orgasm and high cholesterol level. As explained before, blood flow is very important to have a significant arousal while having sex. Women with high cholesterol are likely to have congested arteries which make it difficult for the blood to flow freely in the pelvic section, thus leading to less sensation in the genitals and low orgasm eventually.
5. Have a study of your relationship
Poor sex life is not just limited to your bedroom; problems could arise from outside as well. Have a run-through of your relationship and find out the exact cause of facing libido problem. It may not necessary mean a medical urgency as well. Talk it out with your partner and peacefully settle the matter. You could take help from a sex therapist or marriage and family therapist if things are going wayward.
6. Have “bedroom privacy”
It’s easy to let kids on your bed and pets cuddled up in your blanket. But, these are popular “mood killers”. Mood is a primary requirement to have a great sex. If you want to up your room temperature, you need to maintain privacy. You could spread a soft, romantic sheet on your bed, dim the lights, keep a bunch of roses, and spray a nice freshener to ignite the mood.
7. Have your household chores shared
It’s intimate for any woman to work on household chores equally with her partner. After a long day at the office, it is very hard to look after kids, clean the kitchen, and prepare dinner the family for any working woman. Why not help her to complete the tasks? This will raise the level of intimacy between both of you and help to have a great time in the bedroom.
8. Have your medications checked
Low libido could possibly be a side effect of certain medications you may be taking for birth control, gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), high blood pressure, depression, or anxiety. In that case, you need to discuss your problem with the doctor who prescribed those medications. Maybe, a different treatment option could be considered.
9. Have an old-fashioned date, again
Do you remember how you met your partner the first time? How did you feel when you saw her the first time? Yes, you need to ignite that love again to ignite the fire in your bedroom. Don’t expect the fire to rekindle by watching an old romantic movie together in your living room. Get out of our house. Plan a dinner. Go for a movie. Do something special and unique to have that romantic evening.
10. Have your fitness session together
Just as sharing household chores is intimate, sharing a sweat session too is. Women with dulled libido and those who are dependent on antidepressants are researched to find their right libido back by following a 90-minute exercising session each week. And if you do it with your partner, it will be more beneficial for you. The best benefits include great self-esteem, enhanced mood, and de-stressed living.
11. Have your self diagnosed
Low libido may unknowingly be linked to a number of medical problems such as chronic fatigue and depression. Thyroid problem is another major concern associated with decreased sex drive. It is always safe and better to get checked by a doctor and find the right treatment for you at the earliest.
